If everyone in your life is easy to get along with and you have no relational difficulties at all then don’t read this.
When we say to someone, “Here’s what you need to do to change” it usually doesn’t turn out so well for us. Too many of us have unrealistic expectations of what Christmas should be and maybe even an antiseptic view of the manger. Let’s look at the Christmas story from a different perspective.
I heard once, “If Jesus was at my family’s Christmas he wouldn’t be so optimistic about loving people.” During this season we encounter all kinds of different people. In the Christmas story there were…
Disappointed people
Zechariah and Elizabeth faithfully served God the best they knew how. Elizabeth was old and barren in an age when being without children was considered a curse or perhaps worse yet, it was because of something you did to displease God.
This was a disappointed couple and perhaps a strained relationship as well. When the priest Zechariah was told by the angel that his wife would have a child Zechariah’s natural response was, “How can I be sure of this, my wife and I’m are too old and worn out.” As result of Zechariah’s unbelief he did not speak until his son John was born.
Stressed out people
All is calm, all is bright. Really? Mary was probably around thirteen when she was pregnant and told Joseph the father was the Holy Spirit. Joseph: Would you repeat that please… Needless to say, he didn’t believe her. Are you really going to stay with that story Mary? Joseph wanted to spare Mary public disgrace and humiliation and planned to quietly divorce her. There was scandal in Galilee.
Then Joseph was visited by an angel and changed his mind about divorcing Mary and told her that we should just go ahead and get married anyway. They were from Galilee which was a very strict religious place, not like where some of us live.
They were a poor couple who were financially strapped during tax season and now were on a difficult long journey with no place to stay. Joseph didn’t even think to call ahead and book the cheapest B &B or Motel 6.
Unsavory people
How many people have ‘The Great’ tacked on after their name like Herod? Paranoid about losing his power to a prophesied Jewish King, Herod ordered the murder of all the boys in Bethlehem who were two years and under.
Warned by an angel Joseph and Mary took Jesus and fled to Egypt to live in a foreign place with a radically different culture and language and where the locals didn’t really want them around. If they took the Stress Test today they would be off the charts.
Strange and despised people
The Magi were Persians who looked very different than those living in Palestine. They believed in astrology which was strictly forbidden for the Jews. Then there were the dishonest and despised shepherds. If you were a good Jew you didn’t want your daughter hanging out with these guys.
Jesus lived in a world with plenty of people like the ones mentioned, but he gave them love anyway. This Christmas you can give better gifts that people really need.
The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us. We have seen his glory, the glory of the one and only Son, who came from the Father, full of grace and truth. John 1:14
The first gift you can give to the difficult people in your life is…
The gift of grace
Jesus asked the woman caught in adultery, “Where are your accusers? There are none Lord, “Neither do I condemn you…” For the son of man came not to condemn the world, but to save it.” John 3:17
There is no one in your life who doesn’t need grace. Everybody needs grace. You might think someone doesn’t deserve grace and you know what, they don’t, but God gives it anyway. Only God knows what they deserve. A lot of times we don’t know their backgrounds and wounds.
We all have certain leanings, some of us have a high capacity for gratitude and others of us are constantly whining, but Jesus is full of grace to all of us. Are you? The second gift is…
The gift of truth
Jesus was full of grace, but not just grace. He was also full of truth. Grace without truth isn’t enough to grow in. Jesus was full grace, but also full of truth. It’s really hard to speak the truth sometimes. We might think we’re really good at telling someone the truth.
We can simply share the truth and a person will change. Wow, I really needed that I’m going to change right now. Yet, when were face to face with someone we struggle with the right words to say.
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. Ephesians 4:15 The third gift is…
The gift of time
Time is a precious commodity. Some think one conversation will be enough to persuade a person to change. We’re impatient, we want to microwave people. I had one conversation with ______and he didn’t change, what’s the deal?
Jesus tells this great story. There’s this guy who sees a fig tree that looked dead and said, “Let’s cut it down?” The gardener says, “No not yet, give it another year, fertilize and prune it, I’m still working on this tree.” Of course the gardener (Jesus) is still at work in those whom we might write off.
There has been people in your life for which you’ve tried to help several times and you finally came to a point of giving up on them. But you’re not in charge of them. God is working on that tree. He’s working on your tree. All you can bring to the table is you. The only heart you can bring to the table is yours. The question is will you bring grace, truth and time to them? It’s a lot easier to think about it than doing it.
Maybe you’re not a grace, truth and time person, but you can be a conduit for it if you start with this Christmas letting God love you.
Israel was living in a very stressful time in their history and they weren’t sure if they were loved. I can’t really love if I don’t I know I have more than enough love coming my way. God says to them, ‘Even if a mom would forget her child I could never forget you. I love you too much…Your name is engraved in the palm of my hand.’ Isaiah 49:14-15
That was what Jesus did in his life, He showed love to the disappointed people, stressed out people, unsafe people, embarrassed people, all the difficult people in his life and he gave them grace, truth and time. Then he went to a cross and stretched out his hands and allowed the cruel spikes to pierce his hands and your name got engraved in his palm.
You see, there are a lot of people who don’t know they’re loved. This could be a Christmas unlike any other. Maybe your pain is so deep; your emotions are so raw you have no idea where to start to love others the way Jesus did. God knows this.
You don’t have to figure out what to do or say. All you have to do is bring your heart to God right now and ask Him to help you let go of your bitterness, resentment, the fear, the anxiety that’s been keeping you in your own prison.
Help us God to acknowledge that our peace does not come from within ourselves, but from you, for you are our peace.
Merry Christmas
